Hey Crimson, you've been doing this a lot longer than I have, but I wouldn't worry about whether she'll hold onto it to use against you in a future argument about having your way.
I noticed when I started putting my foot down on things after BD using DB techniques for doing so the right way, W would argue, yell and scream, bring it up months later, etc -- but it was still doing more to rebuild attraction and respect than all the spending time together as friends.
A WAS will find an angle on anything, good or bad, that has happened to support their perspective, so don't let their perspective be your guiding factor.
Me: 24 W: 24 T: 9 M: 6 S7, D4, S2 PA Starts, ILYBINILWY: Nov 2012 BD & PA Discovered: Jan 2013 First ML since BD: April 2013 Physical separation: Mid-May 2013