Let my love open the door...

[complicated]

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I've been following your thread for some time now. Haven't really posted but maybe once because honestly, I'm not confident in what I'm doing much less to steer someone else down the wrong path.

But I can tell you some interesting things that have happened in my sitch lately. A month ago OW came to the house and it pretty much forced the issue for h to confess everything. I think she was tired of probably being lied to by h too.

In my case it has been going on for 3 years. I believe that my h's fog is finally lifting. He apparently had told her he needed space to "figure things out" and I think she panicked. She has been showing her true colors and h sees that now. That doesn't mean that he isn't going back now and then because she made sure to tell me that he has.

I'm not sure in my case how much more patience I have. I am here to tell you that she will show her colors and he will eventually see what he is doing to everyone. In my case he sees that he has hurt me, our kids and her, though I could give a rat's a$$ about her. She deserves it for getting involved with a married man.

I don't know if your h is on AD's but mine was on some really heavy duty ones and he thinks that it is what kept him in the fog for so long. It wasn't until he got off of those that he started getting better. I don't know if it made him stuck and that is why it took him so long.

She will trip up and I suspect she is doing it now from what you report. H started spending more time at my house and OW wasn't happy.

I think your time is coming!