Thanks BklynMom for the encouragement!

It feels weird to say that I am D, but at least I don't have to worry about it anymore.

And now I finally get to make my own choices. For 2 years, XH could decide if/when he wanted to act like a H or friend. I felt like I had to respect my vows, so I had to act like a W, and couldn't choose not to be his friend.

But now the state has decided we're not married anymore, so I can decide if I want to be friends with him. And I can clearly see that he's not the man I married, and if I met him now, I wouldn't have married him.

I can put myself first and don't have to consider him, since his future isn't tied to mine any more.

And while I wish he would grow up and come to his senses, he's responsible for himself now and I'll be okay no matter what.


M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13