I'm so glad your day at the theme park went well TVS! Sounds like the boys had a ball, and like your H was having a nice time bonding as a family.�
Your very clinical outfit for standing back to make observations made me laugh out loud. {Footnote: the constant good humor exhibited by many of the folks on this forum despite the horror we are all living blows me away sometimes. Thank you one and all}
Your observations are so interesting. He seems to be wavering back and forth. The "incidental" touching, lack of texting, good mood, patience with the boys. Then to start up the texting again last night, sigh... Maybe Frumpy Old Twinkle was a bit annoyed and insecure about you guys having such a nice day, and was pushing him. Back to scratching, I betcha!
TVS, I bet you will start to see BIG changes two weeks from now. Good changes! This is such a hard time for you because you have to live thru it. We on the outside can see his little changes, and know you're moving in the right direction. Always "slightly hot," NEVER frumpy
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
oh gee, lots of texts going on here too, for the past 30 min or so, and H just slammed his door. Closed bedroom door during the day=skype with RT. She must be pushing pushing again. I guess I better buck up for the falllout
Ignore his teenage drama temper tantrum. Maybe even leave the house so you don't get sucked into his mess. You should not have to deal with any "fallout", let him deal with it on his own.
He is going with you to the wedding???
I can see small changes in my husband, and it is good. I feel like at bomb, he was a million miles away. Now, he is moving closer, inch by inch. Literally!
There's a lot of inches in a million miles
I'm getting to a point I really don't give a sh!t what FT does. She can pressure, kiss ass, act crazy, etc.
I know who I am. And you better damn well believe it includes always being slightly hot!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Thank you my friend for your kind words. I appreciate them more than words can say.
I rolled over in bed around 11:30 last night, was restless, couldn't sleep. I checked and saw your post. Next thing I knew, I had tears streaming down my face. They weren't tears of happiness or sadness. They were tears of relief.
That I am going to make it through. That I won't be alone in doing so.
So thank you for that
I feel like my above scenario of him inching closer after being miles away is a pretty accurate one. I am going to just keep doing what I am doing.
You know I love to get ahead of myself! My brain just can't cool it sometimes. I'm the mom that packs a ton of stuff when we're not at home (someone might need a band aid, or a Kleenex, or a juice box, or a wet wipe, etc.) You should see my purse lol!!!
So admittedly, it is difficult for me not to envision various scenarios in my head. Gotta work on that.
What are we drinking? Hey, it's 5:00 somewhere right? I say whatever we wanna drink! Perhaps some type of alcoholic fruit slush? I'm getting out the blender right now
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Wow TVS, you are getting really really strong. it's great that you don't give a flying fig about FT aka TT. I know I shouldn't care about RT, just view her as a slightly soiled bandaid that will fall off in time, but my imagination gets in the way
"I can see small changes in my husband, and it is good. I feel like at bomb, he was a million miles away. Now, he is moving closer, inch by inch. Literally! There's a lot of inches in a million miles" True, TVS. But I bet once he gets some momentum going, he'll speed up, like a train that starts slowly and goes faster and faster. Poor old FT will probably get run over by this LOVE train hahaha! His eyes are not quite open yet. He's sort of just squinting out of his right eye. But just stay your wonderful fabulous self. He's coming around!
Thanks for your advice to leave for a bit to avoid my H's teenage drama temper tantrum fallout lol! I did, and he's over it. I know what RT in a tizzy is like. She actually had a hissy fit because he missed their 2pm phone sex session to go to our son's college graduation. Amazing woman. Hahahaha! I'm not sure if he'll tell me what this particular fit was about or not, but don't care! I probably make her feel as insecure as you make Twinkle feel! I hope so anyway. I should have someone take a photo of H and me together at the wedding tomorrow, then find some way to text it to her from his phone hahaha!
Can I come over for alcoholic fruit slush too? I'll bring some humus, yum! Enjoy your weekend with your sons!
TVS I've been following your thread for some time now. Haven't really posted but maybe once because honestly, I'm not confident in what I'm doing much less to steer someone else down the wrong path.
But I can tell you some interesting things that have happened in my sitch lately. A month ago OW came to the house and it pretty much forced the issue for h to confess everything. I think she was tired of probably being lied to by h too.
In my case it has been going on for 3 years. I believe that my h's fog is finally lifting. He apparently had told her he needed space to "figure things out" and I think she panicked. She has been showing her true colors and h sees that now. That doesn't mean that he isn't going back now and then because she made sure to tell me that he has.
I'm not sure in my case how much more patience I have. I am here to tell you that she will show her colors and he will eventually see what he is doing to everyone. In my case he sees that he has hurt me, our kids and her, though I could give a rat's a$$ about her. She deserves it for getting involved with a married man.
I don't know if your h is on AD's but mine was on some really heavy duty ones and he thinks that it is what kept him in the fog for so long. It wasn't until he got off of those that he started getting better. I don't know if it made him stuck and that is why it took him so long.
She will trip up and I suspect she is doing it now from what you report. H started spending more time at my house and OW wasn't happy.
I think your time is coming!
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
