...but he said that its over and he is not going to give up OW he has very strong feelings for her. And our marriage dead along time ago.
Kelela, this is what almost ALL of the WAS say!!
And Thumpered is right, he doesn't know what he wants, he just wants to feel "better". The only real way for him to feel better is for him to work on what's inside of him, but he doesn't see that yet. Right now he's trying to rearrange things in his world, to see if that will "help".
It may take a long while for him to realize these external changes aren't going to fix him, and you are going to have to be very strong and patient. And, you are going to have to work really hard on YOU!
Marriage is tough sometimes, we just have to be tougher
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
