Well said in a lot of ways. It is too hard to copy and reply to different things you said on my phone.
When you said you believe in your heart your will reconcile, I think that is awesome and you SHOULD trust it!
As for the "mind reading" about having to be the one to make the effort, I have a spouse like that. We have been somewhat R for a month or so and in any talks we have had he still only mentions what I did. I did say the other day "we both have to make changes or this won't work" but Inknow what you mean.
You sound like you are in a good spot mentally and emotionally at the moment, good for you.
Don't quit DBing though, you will learn a lot here. Take what you need, think about the rest. You will also be able to offer advice to others as you move through the process
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
