Moving forward together from a mess

[cbtdad]

Mr Bond this exactly how I am approaching it. It seems like the more Im trying to make her happy the stronger my feelings grow towards her. I am having to have some real patience right now though. Becuase W isn't exactly doing the same things right now. MC told us yesterday how bad the timing is for this. She said normally couples going through this have a couple months in between another person and the decided to work on things. She said it doesn't make it wrong, but we need to realize it and understand the dynamics at play. She said after talking to W individually that W started havin doubts about divorce a few months ago, but started having real feeling for OM. Well now W is grieving over OM which means I don't have her whole heart in this yet. She said that's were the timing is tough becuase I am all in and at a different level than W.
it seems like we only do things W wants to do. I'm trying to understand and have patience with all of it.
AS, described perfectly above when he said LBS starts thinking wait a second everything wasnt so great
I couldn't agree more about the real work beginning now