Detach lovingly...swim to the other shore and stop looking back over your shoulder to where you think she was/is...b/c it stalls YOU in the water, and makes you tread water, now & then, going under.
Once you get to the other shore, you can begin your new, freer life and discover another way of living. A way NOT attached to her feelings du jours.
Crimson, I can just imagine how what 25 says above must feel to you. I think of it like being lost at sea with your wife and you have to let her go, quite possibly to drown, if you are yourself going to survive. And the utter heartbreak you must feel in having to make that decision.
I get it and it hurts like hell! But...
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
A warm detachment from her will not cause problems. It just might reveal them. Make sense?
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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
