Oh no. How awful LimboWife. One thing people on this board advised me about is to protect myself financially. That MLCers are notorious wasteful spendthrifts.
Yes I can relate to this, that made me laugh, lol. The other day he was telling me about this boxset that he bought on his sky tv. It cost him £5 and he's supposed to be hard up! He's recently had to sell his wii u so he can afford to pay bills, but I bet that money's gone already! My son has additional needs, so it's hard to him to take in. He misses his dad and so do I! It is very hard sometimes as he won't listen to me and argues with me. We've even missed the bus before because he was too busy arguing with me. He does play up more since his dad has gone and because of his autism his routine has been thrown out of the window and he can't cope with this! I have yet to establish a new routine with him, some of it is set in stone but there are times when I've had to adjust his routine because I can't get hold of H.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Hang in there, limbo! They don't call this a roller coaster ride for nothing!
The thing is you will eventually get to a place where you realize that like it or not this is YOUR journey, too. And, it is NOT on the same path right now as your H's.
You need to refocus your attention on YOU. You are worth it and your H may or may not wake up to smell the coffee before he realizes that he's missing out on someone great. And, then HE may be pursuing YOU.
For now, though, you have to take care of you.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
"I think of all the emotional support and I love you's that JW is getting and my heart just aches. I knew H had checked out last fall and I kept thinking what am I doing wrong that H won't pay attention to me?? Now i know H was with JW. And then I start beating myself up because I am so desperate for any scraps H has left. And then when I see glimpses of the non-idiot, not stupid head version of H, I think okay I can do this."
oh Limbo, think about what you're saying here. Your H is a mess -- I doubt JW is getting much emotional support. And I love you is easy to say but difficult to live. I understand how you feel, images of my H ML to RT often plague me. But I try my best to block them out and think happy thought. You CAN do this.
Are you doing anything fun this weekend? I am going to my first knitting club meeting this evening. I told my H that's where I'm going but I wonder if I was supposed to just leave without telling him. Do you know?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
