Hey jb - are you still poking around here on this forum?
Hey NTX! I still do occasionally check in.
Big surprise, but I continue to be very busy living this new life I've built for myself through this journey.
I had already discussed the car thing with my L last year when my W bought her previous car. It's looking like I'm clear of any responsibility toward her car purchases.
About 3 weeks ago, my W did text me in an attempt on trying to negotiate some of the terms of the D agreement. I didn't feel it was appropriate to do such a thing via text, so we had a phone call the next day. We still having some sticking points, and during the conversation she left me feeling like I hadn't grown at all over the last 2.5 years, more like I'd regressed to about 8 years ago. I think she was frustrated I've hired a L and that I won't just go along with the way she thinks it should be. I've had time to process it over the last 3 weeks and the truth has been working its way back. It's kind of funny, she's the only person in the world that can lead me to feeling bad about myself. I left the conversation, too with a little fear that she may do something irrational like just outright file for D for instance. I think I've realized that may be possible, but the worst case scenario isn't realistic.
One of the biggest sticking points remains to be the transportation for my S. She has made the decision to move 40 miles from me (and our S for that matter) and yet expects to split the transportation evenly. I think at this point it's more a matter of what we're going to put down in the agreement more than it is about what we're going to practice. Over the summer, we're trying to arrange it so my S is only going back and forth once a week. I'm doing a little more driving than it looks like I'll be doing during the school year, but we're trying to minimize between the two of us. During the school year, my W is just planning on coming and spending a couple of evening with my S during the week and then he would be with her only every other weekend.
For now, I am still waiting to hear back from her. It could be any day, any minute. She's had it in her court for 4 weeks now. Yet, anytime we talk about it, she intimates that I'm primarily responsible for making the process drag on as long as it has.
