So, there is the possibility that letting go, can.
Letting go doesn't mean giving up.
I feel that lovingly letting her go is the ultimate act of love.
It is saying that you cherish her enough to want her to be happy, even if that means it isnt with you.
It is telling her that you hear her. You hear that she wants to be independent.
And if in the future, it is meant to be for the two of you to look towards each other, then, you will have become the person you were meant to be and will be able to enter a new relationship with her from a place of strength.
How about this:
"XW,
I hear you when you say that you need your independence and that we both need to be okay on our own. What we've been doing isn't working to accomplish those goals, so I have decided that I need time to deal with what my life is today, and for the future. And I have found that I cannot do that with so much over my head. Therefore, unless there are issues concerning the children or the finances, I will not contact you, and I ask that you do the same for me."
Or is that explaining too much in the beginning and I should just go with the original?
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
