With my GAL and hobbies/friends, it would be SOOOO much easier to just walk away than deal with this person I don't even know anymore.
I think many people feel this way, multiple times during their sitch.
Some family members have hinted or asked me outright, "how long will you put up with this? [meaning my W's behavior]" My response was that I do still love her, and that a 22-year marriage is worth more than 6 months or even 9 months of hardship and effort. In my mind, I think at least 1 year is needed before you get to that point of deciding to separate for a 20 year+ marriage. After a year, I expect two things might happen for you: (1) from DB-ing, GAL, and other activities you will be stronger, more independent, and less affected by the WAW; and (2) your sitch should be better with you W due to DB-ing, GAL, etc.
At that point you could evaluate your sitch, decide what to do, maybe change strategy or end the relationship.
