I am very close to telling my H that I would like him to stay at his brother's house. I do not care if it is a temporary separation or not, or trial separation, I just cannot bare to be in the same house as him. He is bringing me down with him in his depression. I do not want to go down with him. I do not even know if I would like him to be around the children in his state of mind. He is so closed off, distant, quiet. I do not think that is healthy. I feel he needs help. I am worried for him.
I've been there H61. Being around my W and seeing her trying not to fall apart was tough. I worried about her. I worried about her decreasing interaction with the kids. I felt she needed help. Then I realized this was affecting my mood. Even though as of today we are still in the same house, I try not to be in the same room much. It really helped. I play with the kids outside, I do yard work, I go for a run, etc. It helped my PMA.
You can't fix him. I know you know that, but I also know how hard it is not to care. And its not that you don't care about him, but you have to care for yourself more. Take care of you and kids.
M:34 W:36 M:10 T:15 D:9 S:5 BD:12/12 Worked on the M for 6 mo before W saying it was over 5/13.
