Mizjjd, your right I cant help her find herself. I've been GAL up a storm and im actually really great bout myself (cooking classes, dancing classes, gym, etc). Its just hard to come home and see her melting away on the couch. I eat, sleep, go to the gym 3 times per week, and im already in pretty good shape due to my job. Lately I just want to get away/out instead of trying to be around it and it dragging my mood down. My wife says she's proud of the changes I've made, and she's noticed my change of attitude. I just wish some of it would rub off I guess. 3 days ago I stopped bringing up the M, she has little things she says, and I just listen and validate now per Chuck my DB coach. I guess I just didn't realize when they said be patient, they were talking about syrup in December slow. Seems like watching an iceberg melt is mach speed in comparison to this process. lol.
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Your right, slow the roll!! The car comment, I just meant that she doesn't even seem to care about anything, herself included. Recently she's just made comments that she doesn't know what she wants, and she's tired of thinking about any of it, kids/friends/me/marriage/work. I guess I just get frustrated that she cant see what she's doing to herself, much less the rest of us. Its like she's just given up, and im starting to worry about her own safety. Its def. me still trying to fix her, and that's what I need to stop doing. Give her the time and space so she do what she needs to do for herself. My son sees it too, and since he's 15, he worries about his mom. What do I tell him, its gotten to the point that he's afraid to talk to her, and you can see how its affecting him. I read that I should not interfere with their relationship, but feel I need to say something to my son so he's not taking it personal, which I've tried to do in the past.
