In the last 3 weeks, two separate married old classmates have reached out in inappropriate ways to my H, and ofcourse he is loving every minute of it, without any concern about what it has done to me.
Let me ask, have you made it clear to him that you find this kind of behavior unacceptable? Do you have clearly defined boundaries with him on this, and defined repercussions if those boundaries are crossed? These are things that should have been discussed back when you reconciled. I'm guessing you didn't, so now would be the time to sit down with him and go over that.
You quit posting in 2006 before you reconciled, it might be helpful to hear how you came back together and what was discussed at that time.
