I had an interesting Father's Day. My wife took the time to buy me some nice gifts and cards from our 3 kids. She also cooked dinner for the family that night. One thing that was interesting was that she did not wish me a happy Father's Day, not that I was expecting her to. I thanked her for the gifts and indicated that I appreciated the thought and time that she put into the day. She did not respond to those comments either.
In contrast, Mother's Day was similar but different in a number of ways. I wished her a Happy Mother's Day and I also purchased some gifts that the kids could give to her. She never acknowledged the gifts or said thank you etc, and although I was not expecting her to, you would think that she could at least be polite etc. I have long since given up trying to interpret her actions as I have no way of knowing what is really going on in her head.
It is almost 8 weeks since I suggested that she find another place to live and there has been no response or action from her end. I truly believe that she is content with the current arrangement. She doesn't want to upset the kids and although not happy herself, she does get to see the OM at work and at least continue thinking and discussing how wonderful life would be if the two of them could be together.
She claims that she no long interacts with him, but I can't see how that is possible given that they work in the same department. As long as they continue to work together, he will be an on-going distraction. I have never pushed for her to find another job, but it is something that does continue to bother me somewhat because she has made no effort to find work some where else.
Her sister and family are coming to visit us in a couple of weeks and I am not looking forward to another round of pretending to my in-laws that we are a happy family and everything is going great!
Anyway, it is becoming clearer that I will need to take the lead if I am going to move out of Limbo Land. Not a bad thing, as it will at least put me in control of my own future.
