Yeah, I thought these were the ebbs and flows of piecing, but once you actually get into them it's a little harder to manage. Making steps to ensure I keep my feelings in check as much as possible.
The Mrs and I have been seeing a LMFT since early March. My wife wanted to continue to go monthly to learn how to co-parent and now we've increased frequency given her willingness to try (trying to do weekly). She is not seeing an IC which I wish she would to help her deal with this anxiety about potential for failure and totally blaming herself. We talked about this at our last session together and our counselor told her she can't take all the blame as this is a relationship of two people.
It's my birthday tomorrow and we have a night out planned with the kids sleeping at my MIL's. I'm hopeful her anxiety doesn't make an appearance, but we will see. I just have to be super positive, enjoy myself and let things flow as best as they can. This will be our first "date" since her decision to try. We had one scheduled the week she changed her mind on D, but she cancelled because of pressure / anxiety.
Although she's not going to counseling by herself, our sessions together have been very helpful. Just trying to find the right mix to keep both myself and her happy. I think the less I worry about her the better my chances are, but sometimes it's difficult to pull off.
Thanks, Trying
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
