I know when I first joined the board and saw the response to "detach" repeatedly posted after almost everyones first post, I thought detach meant to do as the Sandi's Rules state; don't call, don't text, etc... but then I came across another post (which I can not find now) that explaned detachment more like AnotherStander described it above. "Detaching" made much more sense when it was explained more like this point stated in the article:
"Ability to maintain an emotional bond of love, concern and caring without the negative results of rescuing, enabling, fixing or controlling."
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
