I know today is the day of the big talk and I wanted to wish you well.
Your H is going through an internal crisis and is hurting right now.
When somebody is hurting they often do and say drastic things to make the hurt stop.
They often do not think clearly.
Often these thoughts, words and actions cut deep wounds into the people closest to them.
If both parents in a family have a crisis at the same time, it can cause real and lasting harm to the children.
Kelela, you have to be the strong one now. Your kids can't lose both of you.
Whatever is said today, whatever "decision" your H thinks he's made, you need to be calm and thoughtful in your reaction. Remember that he speaks from a place of hurt and fear. Listen carefully to what he says and validate his message.
If you feel overwhelmed then take a break for a few minutes.
Remember that whatever is said is not carved in stone. Its just how your H feels right now.
I'll be thinking of you, wishing you peace, hoping your "angel" is sitting on your shoulder.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
