There has been no discussion of the incident since the week or so after it happened, until her comments recently. I was unaware that she was still so troubled by it.
At least I now have an even better idea of what W is dealing with. Reading the advice above, and now a bit on the sword dance site, comforts me that I've pretty much been on course.
I fully expect we will discuss all this at some point during the trip. I will listen and validate, and express my regrets for my part in things. I will not try to fix her or push her to a resolution of my choice. I want W to stick with me because she sees that I love her, and am giving my best for her. I really think it will go well.
I will not be logging on to the forum during the trip. I will be concentrating primarily on having a fun, relaxed time with my W of 30 years, along with a bit of R talk and of course making sure I don't end up being a whale shark hors d' oeuvre!
This likely will be my last post until we return.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
