Not confused...looking inward

[BRNR]

GM, funny I thought a lot about you during this sitch...be glad you have a vanisher. It may be a blessing in disguise.

I asked about the restraining order, and no, a minor child cannot have one against the parent...I am filing for full custody, but heard it is very hard to get in my state due to the rampant single parents...the courts are in favor of joint...so while I filed for full, I have been prepped that I probably won't get it. Up to the judge. The teenagers only have a right to decide which parent they want to be primarily reside with, but if time is court ordered, he must go. Three different attorneys, all the same answers.

But, I am going to have an attorney represent me for this, the one out of the three that has gotten really good results with other people I know. I want to try and get it right the first time. I have heard that the judges in our area have been more favorable to the mother...and I can attest that I have seen some really good Dad's in our area get really screwed. So hopefully that is in my favor.

H has a clean history without problems, baby mamas, drugs, abuse, or criminal. My attorney is going to have a lot of work to do.

Is he sabotaging, yes. Attorney said this, and it can all be brought up, but no precedence of this "guy" is going to be hard. And h has a right to "discipline" his child, has rights to parenting time, has rights for custody, etc, etc. No two ways around it.

So maybe the fact that I filed and h will receive the summons will "prevent" further damage as I would hope he would realize I am watching (and taking notes) for him to mess up more now. Will need as much as I can get for the hearing. But I also have to remember to be mindful of me as well.

I don't know how this will turn out, but I am praying for the best but preparing for the worse. We will see.