Moving forward together from a mess

[MrBond]

"Being brutally honest, I'm worried that we both wont give 100%"

So why are you trying to save your M?

"Marriage is work and you have to work on it everyday."

No it's not. It's not "work". It's the thought of making your spouse happy on both sides. The minute you think of it as "work" it's a major turnoff for yourself and your spouse.

"First assignment was given today. It was a worksheet for us to discuss the 5 LL's"

Nice place to start.