Moving forward together from a mess

[cbtdad]

Being brutally honest, I'm worried that we both wont give 100%
I know that's what it's going to take not only to get us back on track, but to keep us there. Marriage is work and you have to work on it everyday. I now understand this better. We had a great MC appt today. Definitely put things in perspective a little better. My wife was running 5 mins late so C and I had I chance to talk and she told me not to worry that this is really what W wants, but that she is jut grieving over what she thought was real even though it was all lies. She said God is definitely teaching me patience through this. But to remember that OM was symptom not the problem. He was a bandaid. I that I need to remember how we got to this point as well. Not that it excuses her for we choices, but to remember what i put W through for a year.
She said this is really tough timing for both of us. We both want things to work, but I get upset becuase i feel all in and since W is still grieving I don't have her full heart yet and it scares me. Lots of good stuff today.
First assignment was given today. It was a worksheet for us to discuss the 5 LL's