Husband has one foot out the door!

[chasingpavements]

Thumpered, unfortunately I am not having much more luck than you in dealing with all of this. Before our big bomb drop, I thought everything was going fine with us. We got along well, went on dates, family vacations, laughed a lot, etc. Ever since the bomb drop, my life has changed drastically. He says he doesn't care for me as much as he thinks he should and no longer loves me and can't imagine us staying together. I am still in complete shock.

I often think, what is the point in staying with someone like this. Our children are still very young, and we would be splitting our family up. I am probably about to become a single mother, looking for a new place to live, most likely scraping by, trying to make ends meet. What kind of person does that?? I imagine that's where his depression comes in.

I am almost spent as well. I feel that I deserve someone who cares about me, someone that will treat me well, and care about my feelings. I feel as though my spouse is a completely different person, as well, than what he used to be. I don't know what happened to my old spouse, it's almost like 'Twilight Zone', too weird to describe.

I also think about, what happens if this gets strung out another couple of years. I don't think I can continue on for another few years, feeling how I do, in pain, and worrying, and dealing with a spouse that does not care for me.