I am very sorry to hear about what happened last night. It's such a shame that your boys have to put up w/that behavior, I hope that everything goes smoothly w/your filings today.

Actually, it's funny, but dbing isn't about saving marriages, it's about saving you. I use the db techniques every day in my interactions w/others. You'll find yourself doing it too in time.

Please take care of your boys and yourself.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.