Its a fence with the sharp pointed ends too! We are still living together, sleep in the same bed,she has never used the word divorce, but at the same time she has no clue of what she wants from minute to minute. I think in her case, the depression, is from having to make a decision of whether to make a commitment to the marriage or break up 21 years of marriage and our family.
Like you, to look at our spouses in this condition hurts, the pain they must be going thru, but at the same time, the hurt they're putting us/family thru. Its hard to be around, and no matter what im doing, it still affects me. I know I cant fix it, but I want to help, its so hard to not go there. Its the "why cant they see whats happening" syndrome I guess.
Same here! I am almost certain that the reason my H is so down is the constant worrying over what to do next, how it will affect our family, etc. To watch your spouse go through all of this pain and confusion is difficult. It is as if they are now a stranger. To boot, my H has lost 50 pounds, started dressing differently, and even got braces, and I wonder where my old H went.
Same as you, I often wonder why they can't see whats happening. I have a feeling they will look back in a few years wondering what on earth happened.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
