Its really bothering me that she shows no emotion or concern about this change.
WAS's don't SHOW emotions, but that doesn't mean they don't feel them. My W admitted months after moving out that she had been crying almost every day. She NEVER showed me anything but a happy facade though, so I was stunned to hear that. Your W is going through a lot, I guarantee you.
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I feel like im losing my best friend and she is happy in doing so.
First, you don't know if she's happy or not, but probably not. Second, you have got to let her go. You're not losing your BF, you already lost her. You lost her at BD. The sooner you accept this then the quicker you will heal.
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I have not talked about our relationship in months, it like we coexist like brother and sister... it feels weird.
That's actually good, that's where you want things to be for now. Take all pressure off of her.
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I have been giving her space by not calling or texting. I do see her 4 times a week by default due to the children so the LRT is a bit challenging.
You can't really go dark when kids are involved, it's more going "dim" than dark. Just keep things brief and business-like. I think it's Mach that says "just bills and boys".
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Its lonely at my apt with just me and my dog. I miss the laughter and chaos of the boys.
I hear you, I remember those days after W moved out, the first week she had the kids I felt horribly lonely. But over time I've come to appreciate that time alone, it gives me personal time to do things I haven't had time for in many years. And it makes me appreciate my time with the kids that much more. Instead of looking at it as a curse, try to see it as a blessing
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Still a roller coaster of emotions, not sure if that will ever change.
It absolutely gets better! For me the healing came much faster once W moved out. The first month was rough, but healing came pretty fast after that. Just keep yourself busy!
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Wondering if I should reach out to her or just give it more time..
More time. You'll know when she's ready for you to reach out, because SHE will come to YOU. Remember the squirrel analogy.
