I'm not a vet, sorry, but have a question for you to think about. What will your H do different if you only agree to a short separation? What will he do different if you do not agree to a separation at all? How will he be brought closer by your resistance to what he needs or wants?

Think about how to keep the road home paved and smooth without laying beartraps along it to trap him in...because they will more likely trap him out.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.