I know h is confused as he has said so many times. He has started to see the hurt he has caused everyone, even OW though I could give a rats a$$ about her. I can see that she is desperate and is why she contacts me.
What I don't understand is why she would do that to h? I'm glad she did because he is an idiot if he would go back to her now. I'm glad I was able to keep my cool because I think it made me look like the better person.
Another thing h told me is that people warned him about her and he wished he had listened. He said she has quite a temper and I guess it had started flairing up where mine (yep, I admit I have one) has definitely tapered down. That was one of my 180's.
I also think mil's talk with him is or has gotten to him.
I do realize from everything I have read on here that post h might not or probably won't be like pre mlc h and I feel like I am prepared for that. What I'm not prepared for is h still not knowing what he wants to do with our m after all he has done. I don't know how much longer I can hold out.
We are going out of town with D19 tomorrow and we were supposed to stay together and D19 stays with her team. With everything that has happened he has chosen to stay seperately. I initially thought this might be an opportunity to reconnect but that won't happen now.
The decision to stay in separate rooms was decided by h because he was not happy that I had the kids see my Dad for 45 min on Father's Day before they saw him. He completely flew off the handle with that one so I still can't do anything right in his eyes.
My other 180s was to GAL more. One night this weekend he stopped by, of course without notice. MC had told him to spend more time at the house and with the family to see if it helps him. I made plans to go out with my friend and since I did not know he was coming over I made the plans. He came over before we left and I said "see ya" I think he was a little surprised.
He also said I didn't show him I cared enough. What he still doesn't understand is that was my response to the way he was treating me at the time but I'm doing little things now. Just little things and he doesn't shy away from them.
We still ml now and then so that was no different and I think that was another thing that set OW off. He apparently told her because she referenced that in her phone call.
Right now I'm really having trouble getting past the hurt of them getting together AFTER he admitted A and agreed not to see her.
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
