Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[whitneypinch]

Yes, there are many similarities to our situations.

When I leave my ex alone for a fews days she is always friendlier to me, but when I am friendlier to her she pulls back. I understand this is typical.

I too am still very attracted to my XW. I see her ever few days because of our 2 children. It hard as we always get along.

My divorce has provided deep changes in me. I am much more appreciative, kind and loving. This has benefited my 2 kids and myself greatly !
My kids and I do everything together and go on great adventures all the time.

For me nothing seems to have worked other than my X and I get along really well.
Now that she is in a serious relationship she has put her wall back up with me.
My X has no interest in talking to me about anything between us.
The downside is that I don't believe my X has done the deep work to figure out herself and her contribution to the end of our marriage, like I have.

She is really having trouble with the kids accepting her new relationship.
In fact the kids have really started pushing back. They keep asking why did she not pick someone like daddy, who is down to earth, kind and caring.
Needless to say I don't think my XW is too happy to have the kids pushing on her with that. But she has glossed over the whole thing and has to now face the realities of all of this.

The other issue is that my X is extremely attractive and from a VERY affluent family. So, she continually has attention around her.
I dont believe she will ever do the deep work required of her.

For me all I can do is just be a decent person to her and stay focussed on my kids.
If she is not interested, what can I do?
It is a real shame as we get along great and we have 2 wonderful kids.
I dont' understand why we don't talk about it.... but then again, I m not her.