WP- I can see that we have a few things in common here. However, I am curious as to your situation and any DB techniques you have tried...with or without results. I see that you have been D for some time now...definitely not sure about why you are not seeing any more progress when you are friendly with your ex. Do you express your feelings and desires to her at all? I know that its not part of the process (entirely) but I had a huge discussion about that 2 weeks ago and it seemed to hit home to her. I am enjoying the friendship stage for now, but its tough as hell when I am so freaking attracted to my ex, and it appears that she is still just as attracted to me...but since she is in a relationship she has asked for me to have more respect for her boundaries....but we still flirt like hell. Do you and your ex exhibit any of the old flame?
M 52 W 40 D 15 (step) S 12 (step) Married 7, together almost 8 Separated 1 year before bomb from her "I love you, I'm just..." BD final 8/22/12