ssmguy. I can relate to the "Separation" of sex and love. In all other respects I have the marriage of my dreams with my husband. WE are truly best friends and enjoy each other's company, support one another in life goals, but when it comes to sex, he gives me a withering look, shuts down and walks away. . . . . I too have done all the "hoop-jumping" around the house, cater to him, boost his esteem, etc. etc. and it never results in any passion.
What about the Athol Kay "Sex Rank" system. Is he turned on or interested by anyone in this world? Perhaps you have let yourself go a bit, and you can improve your health, confidence and dress and improve your sex rank and husbands desire will increase.
