AS you are right about this for sure "The time and space is as much for you as for him. You need time and space to decide what YOU want out of life too."
It's funny how in the beginning of our current separation every hour seemed to go on for days and feel so painful and distracting. Now that I'm a month out since I've seen or spoken to H I feel like I'm starting to feel like my old self again... the easy-going, laid back happy self I was before this whole mess started last August. Its nice to have the ability to think things through and really sit with any feelings I may be having without feeling like I'm also walking on eggshells with H around.
I've also been making it a point to really be present in moments now, taking the time to really notice things, like how lovely it is to visit the public pool in the evening when most people have gone home and me and my kids have almost the whole pool to ourselves. Without a million people there you can actually hear the music they play over the speakers and with the sun setting its just perfect.
I also make it a point to sing along (in my head) to my music when taking my daily walks so that my mind doesn't always wander back to H.
BD: Aug 2012 Separated since May 2013 S born Aug 2013 Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out' H is/was actively seeing someone?
