Wild Horses (couldn't drag me away)

[ForeverYoung]

Thanks so much for the kind words of support RH. It means a lot to me to have your help here.

Have you talked to a DB coach? I can't remember.

Yes, several weeks back, but this was before I knew how much W was still struggling with the incident from March 2012, and I felt like issuing a reality talk to let her know I wouldn't be waiting around forever in a loveless M. Now I can see that doing that would likely only have one outcome... her wanting D.

Even though I'm still hoping to find the magic words or deeds, it doesn't seem there's much I can do besides give her time and space, and continue to be there for her. That or bail, which I just can't do knowing all the pain she is dealing with. I just don't believe we should give up on our M so easily!

This trip will offer great insight as far as where we both are, I think.

But for me it wasn't a clear cut "I want a D". It was more like it was an expected thing that "we" were moving on to complete.

Same here. W's feelings about me are what they are, and she doesn't see them as changeable. What I do or say, or how I look, makes little difference.

Well...perspectives can change, as you know.

Yes, they can. But the waiting is the hardest part.