Going In Circles

[shouldistillhope]

Just received an interesting text from W this morning that i haven't responded to yet. I am looking for advice on how to proceed so i don't screw up.

I mentioned in my previous post about W trying to get into an argument with me last night but i avoided it as much as possible. So here is how wifes text read:

Good morning, I can stay at my moms on friday night as long as i can stay at the house on saturday night. I think you should pick the boys up on friday. S4 does a countdown to when he gets to see you and i really do think they need to see you as much as possible. They do miss you. Let me know what you think.

Next text sent 2 minutes later:

And i am sorry for raising my voice last night. I am so stressed out with the house and work but i should not take that out on you. So sorry.

The significance of this to me is i can count on one hand since we have met the number of times she has admitted she was wrong and actually apologized.

Our house was in constant disarray throughout our 9 years of marriage due to remodeling the entire lower level a room at a time as we saved up money and it was a cause of major stress for my W and I. More so for her. I got burned out with it all as well with trying to work 50 to 55 hours a week and then come home and remodel as well.

I know my response will not save me from a divorce, but i also don't want to mess things up any worse.

I am thinking about this for a response:

W, I am sorry to hear about all the stress you are going through. I understand that these things are causing you to fret and i just want to let you know that even though we are getting divorced that if you need to talk, i will be here to listen to whatever you have to say without judging you or your life. I will always care deeply for you and if you need someone to talk to, you can always count on me for that reason. It is one of the things i regret, not having been there for you in the past but i have to move forward with my life and become the best person i can be for me.

Anyone have any thoughts or advice? Sure could use some.