I think you did the right thing not pursuing her, giving her time and space to get past what she was feeling at that moment.
Just be yourself on the trip, let her lead...and no swimming into whale shark mouths, okay?
You can do this!
Thanks so much for the support T^2. It helps a lot.
Originally Posted By: TSquared2
I would bet that MAYBE she is venting her frustration with herself some, and maybe her thoughts are cycling back to getting rid of spouse will ease that frustration and discomfort...
I would bet that she doesn't see bailing on me as a surefire course for easing her frustration and discomfort. If she did I think she would've been gone already. Instead, she's been comfortable enough to stay. It sounds more like she doesn't feel she could ever trust me again, or have any of those loving feelings beyond a platonic friendship, and so has to eventually move on. It's been 15 months since the incident, and she's still hurting as much as ever it seems.
Obviously this is going to take a lot more time. *sigh*
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
