Wild Horses (couldn't drag me away)

[reachingHigher]

FY,

Sounds like you handled this the best way possible. Validated and then didn't pursue. She has these deep and difficult issues to work out. If only she could see how much help you are to her ... not the cause of her distress.

Have you talked to a DB coach? I can't remember.

Chuck gave me good advice last summer as I was anticipating getting the "I want a D" talk. And I was pretty much on target as I got it very soon after suspected.

But for me it wasn't a clear cut "I want a D". It was more like it was an expected thing that "we" were moving on to complete. Seems like no matter how you prepare, there will always be a twist to things.

And how many times did my H tell me or other people "there is something that snapped inside my mind. I'll never look at rH the same way or have my life be complete with her in it. She is hindering me from true happiness." Or similar thoughts.

Well...perspectives can change, as you know.