I totally understand where you are coming from when you say that she may feel like she has to give up herself in order to stay in the M and give up being happy. Especially with me pushing for her to come home. I guess my question is, would it be a good idea to tell her that she will not have to give these things up to stay in the M. I feel as though she has it stuck in her mind after my pushing that I still expect her to give up everything she has worked for, and that is not the case. I don't want to get into a R convo, l just want to be clear and want her to understand that by staying with the M, she is not expected to give these things up. First and foremost, I want her to be happy and I understand that these things are making her happy. That I have no intention of her giving them up. Like I said, i am just afraid that the pushing from before has her thinking it won't be possible to keep what she has and still have our M. What do you think?
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
