Bea, I agree with all your points. My concern is not about counseling, but what will happen when my H has to finally face how the boys feel and what their lives have been like since he left. He has no idea how devastated they've been. Every single time they've tried to tell him either in person or via email he immediately shuts them down and starts spewing about me. So, when he has to listen to the truth in order to move forward will he abandon the boys again? Will he no longer pay the hefty $175 an hour fee for the therapist he wants (x 2 kids per week) because he's not getting what he wants? I can't afford it so where will that leave the boys? After all, he told me he would pay for my attorney as long as I agreed to everything he wanted. So rather than give me the money that is rightfully mine so I could have legal representation in an action he started I've had to go into debt to finance my protection. That's how he operates. There's no doubt in my mind that he will do the same with the boys. If he cared about them he would have sought counseling for them a year and a half ago without strings attached. He's a manipulator and uses money to do it.
