Last night I decided I wasn't going to do anything to acknowledge it. This is her decision to end the M and there's no point in me giving her a card or anything on a date she likely sees as meaningless.
Originally Posted By: sayitaintso
What is behind your wishing to acknowledge the anniversar
LOL, I was actually thinking about this last night. There are a couple different reasons:
•Obligation (my favorite word...) - Felt I should do something since we're technically still M'd. Rethought this though because she hasn't acted M'd in quite a while and the only reason we're still M'd is due to law process being so slow and no other reason... My 'obligation' has to be to me and my well being and giving a card with no response (even though that's fully what I expect would have happened) may not be in my best interest .
•Fantasy - I still want the happy M and the full family and anniversaries have always been a big deal in our house. I realized deep down I was hoping this might be the thing that snaps her out of it and makes her see what she's doing. I SO know better then this because in her eyes she's doing what's best for her and a card from me would just be a nuisance to her.
•Kids - Part of me wanted to show kids I was still standing for the M. I don't want any doubt in their heads of where their dad stood or that maybe I had given up. More I thought about this I highly doubt those thoughts have entered their heads. Like I've said before we're closer than we've ever been and we speak as openly as a parent/ child should in this situation and they see my (and my W's) actions every day.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
