can i get her to stop cheating?

[mkultra]

I hate to say it, but it sounds like you two are in open marriage territory. One of my closest friends and her husband tried this with preset boundaries and it nearly ruined their family. Yet, they were both retaliating due to past infidelities. He cheated online and eventually became addicted to the attention he lacked at home. So, she got a boyfriend she did not love as much as her husband, but she needed attention too and a quiet place to study away from the pressure of their household. It sounds so silly now that we all look back. Their counselor advised that they both agree to date only each other. But their marriage is sex starved because she is too turned off. Maybe this is how your wife feels? Maybe she is still feeling betrayed, or she needs attention, or she is addicted? Who knows, but you cannot control her! DB is for you! You keep at it! It will keep you on the right path. You must focus on you now! Personally, I have only known one woman who has done something like this and she was on drugs!