There is no Hollywood make up stories... for real...
Your W will need what ever time it takes her to get over the A. She will go through her own grieving process. If you push her, it will only backfire.
Did you both speak with each other and commit to working on the M? If so, this isn't something that either of you two should take lightly or do half heartedly.
Unfortunately she is not here on this board and you can not force her to be committed to rebuilding the M. This remains your work.
How have you grown during your DB process? How have those things been in things that you feel your W had valid complaints?
Why do you think she's decided to work on the M?
It's my best guess that piecing is harder because it means both parties actually need to address the real, underlying issues.
