I hear you, 25....and I agree. I do resort to anger. I know. I also don't tell people that I was a jerk during the marriage and wife is not to blame. I don't. I admit that. I guess I need to dig a lot deeper than I ever realized. I honetly didn't, and still don't, think that my feelings were out of the norm. I feel like I have every right to be angry. Apparently I am wrong in my thinking. I just have to retrain my brain to think and accept things differently, I guess.
in regards to "things that were pressure before, are not now". That is something I have never heard a WORD about. Nobody every told me such a thing. I missed that memo. I thought DBing was staying on a straight course. I didn't realize that I could invite myself along at this point. My gut feeling would tell me the complete oposite. I just get so confused by this whole process. I am completely lost as what to do, how to think, what to accept, when to stand my ground when to be passive. I'm just clueless on how to proceed.
I don't intentionally try to manipulate you others into agreeing with my view. I just feel that some things that are said to me is taken out of context, so I elaborate with more detail. I'm not THAT bullheaded. I am just not sure that everyone has clear picture, because some of the things that are pointed out to me seem to be so far off base from my own feelings.
Sucker punch I can totally relate, Some of the advice people give is hard to hear. But I can tell you, I was in your shoes. My W left and started another R with a guy that she knew would absolutely kill me if she did. I was angry pissed enraged, wanted to kill the guy. Then I just thought to myself that i need to let her go and live her life and that the best revenge would be to make myself a happier person. Read my post I've been smacked with 2x4's by some of the best vets. took it personally until I looked in the mirror and owned my issues. My W is far from perfect and even know I still blame our sitch on her more than me. But i've owned my issues and am still working to make myself better.And i've let the anger go completely and man do I feel alot better. It's funny i spent so much time bashing my W to others. Now she's sniffing around and when I talk to people about my excitement everyone looks at me like I have three heads. I wish the best man
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
