Hiya, PM. Thought I'd say hi and make some comments, if I may.
Ok, so I'm thinking that if your xw tells you she wants to be on her own, that you need to let her be. You are divorced. This is what she wanted. She needs to live that.
And as a girl, I will tell you that you always being there has the potential to keep you in the friend zone, ya know?
You have to do what is best for you. And I think that this is keeping you stuck.
It doesnt mean that you cant be friendly. It just means that you are letting her live the life she chose and that you are moving forward in yours.
If in the future, there is a mutual decision to move towards each other, than, that is something to deal with at that time.
Originally Posted By: PatientMan
But I'm not sure how to handle the potential, "Want to do something/come over and hang out?" question that could very well pop up.
Um, how about, sorry, sounds great, but, maybe another time, I've got some plans. And make some:)[/quote]
I guess I'm just scared of creating distance, which in my case probably stems from insecurity.
I think you might be right. Sounds like something you need to work on, right? No one knows what the future holds, PM. But for right now, your focus needs to be on you and your daughters.
I understand you dont have a lot of time. But you are going to have some soon. And you know, it doesnt have to be anything huge that you do for yourself, PM. Your life cant be just work, school and your children. You have a right to have something just for you.
