I know what you mean by picking up on when things are a little bit off. It's always unnerving to wonder what new bad thing will come our way, right?
That's why we are digging in our heels with lots of patience.
I think you are balancing very well--dates with W, time with kids, and still working and keeping everything together.
I remember last summer I camped with S13 in the yard under a full moon and all I could think about was H was out on the town partying with women. I didn't take the opportunity to fully enjoy like I should have and I regret it now.
Good for you in making a genuine connection with your son. You will never regret that!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway