....to answer you question, 25, I kept coming back here in the early days even though I was finding no one that agreed with me or saw things my way because I realized what I was doing just was not working. I reached a point where I was open to anything and that is where people like you, Mach, Bond and a host of others challenged me to look inward and stop trying to change her. THAT was the thing that changed everything for me.
During on of our discussions I essentially asked her what reflecting she had done over the time we were apart. What part of this she thought she contributed to. Though she did answer, she later bristled that I would ask. Saying that so much of what I was telling her was about all the things that I had learned and how I had changed....that asking if SHE had and what SHE saw as her "fault" was essentially saying "it wasn't my fault...what did YOU do". I told her that the only reason I talk about me is because I can only be honest about my feelings, I can only change me. Not sure how that landed with her at the time.
