Figured I would start a new thread before I got locked out.
CV, I have wondered that before - if she was just trying to get another baby. I always pray that wasn't the case, but how would I ever know? And as far as going out of sight out of mind, I think that is just an irrational fear that I have that is hard to shake. Very hard.
Sandi,
I will try to do as you suggested. So far I have already been fairly sparse in reaching out and I do not respond to every text. I actually deleted her from my address book so I would have to physically type out her cell number before initiating a text conversation with her. Small, but maybe that will help.
I would like to say you wouldn't believe this, but I am sure you would by now. She actually texted me at work and asked if I would consider letting her go to CA with S over the 4th of July to visit a friend. I responded "You have had him for the last two 4ths in a row, so I doubt it." I also told her that I plan on taking him to San Diego soon and will keep her posted on the details. She responded by saying "please consider it - we don't get a lot of invites to travel/visit and it is hard to keep him occupied in the heat". I did not respond. In moments like this it is hard for me to believe she would even ask. He's three....and I have spent precisely ONE 4th of July with him and she would be OK taking three in a row.
So many times in the past I would cave on things like this because I wanted to keep the peace...show signs of good faith....show her that I understood how important it was for her to get away. I didn't fight her over last 4th. I'm done.
I want so badly to tell her we are not a team, we are not the "partnership" that she wanted and asked for 3 months ago. We are nothing. We are separate homes with the same child. She can't have all of the benefits of M or reconciling, or trying to piece with none of the work. If our situation was where it was a month ago, I would be happy to accommodate or better yet suggest we ALL get out together. Not now.
Three consecutive 4th of Julys without his father around? How is that even OK?
