Hi Thumpered, thanks for weighing in on my situation Our stories do seem so similar! You are right that I have been trying to control the situation, and unfortunately, for the first time, this is a situation that I am not able to even weigh in on, let alone change. So hard for me to accept. It's as if my own future is decided by him, and that is scary. I am going to do all that I can on my end, and hope that it makes a difference.
You are definitely right that if I bring up any sort of relationship talk or ask him where we stand, he is going to walk straight out the door. We are hanging by a thread..it is scary for me.
I am going to try to detach more, which is ok, because I need the time for myself. I am finding that I don't even want to be around him that much anymore. Going for walks seems to be helping, and just getting out of the house in general.
I like the idea of the texting!
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
Our stories do seem so similar! You are right that I have been trying to control the situation, and unfortunately, for the first time, this is a situation that I am not able to even weigh in on, let alone change. So hard for me to accept. It's as if my own future is decided by him, and that is scary. I am going to do all that I can on my end, and hope that it makes a difference.
