Thanks for posting, I was feeling so defeated, like a possession he claims, def he's trying to be dominant over me. He feels as if he has no control over his life and maybe this family is the one things that makes him feel secure in knowing/thinking it's his no matter what. Like he say's "who's going to take my family away from me, even if you all leave, your still my family"!
He hates the boundary because he hates feeling the fallout of his own actions, he want's to be free to have friends without explanation. Plus, he really doesn't want to loose me, I said why do you want me, he can't say...he said it's too buried.
I'm going to keep my boundary and make more, it's time he see's my life will not stay still for him. At the same time I'm juggling showing him kindness and showing him, through example, how to treat me.
It's a tight line between all that and making sure not to be allowing him to cake eat, or coddle him.
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
