My world got turned upside down

[TryingToDo180]

Thanks for responding Kaffe Diem. I just got Divorce Remedy and plan to read it plus I have been all over this site trying to make some sense of this chaos that is now my life. He started telling me in January I am not happy, care what happens to you but not don't love you,stayed until the kids were older blah,blah,blah. I noticed in late fall he just didn't want to be involved in much at all. Talked with him and he said he was depressed. Then in January he said he was unhappy. We tried to work on some things and I thought things were getting better. Then on March 1 he just didn't come home. I feel like I have been blindsided. I thought our M was pretty good. We had ups and downs of course but we have always been able to work thru things. Now he is saying all the hurtful things like oh I have wanted to leave for years, how could you not see it, etc. I know I have things to work on to be a better wife but now all he says is I am done. My heart is broken and I am trying so hard to keep from falling apart. Ever thing I have been reading here is so weird because it like it was written about him. This site is amazing and I have learned a lot already. Like learn to keep my mouth shut even when I want to scream my head off at him and demand to know what he did with my real husband! Thanks for reading this far as I am rambling.

Sounds almost identical to the situation I'm going through with my H. He left me 2 months ago and is now planning to file for divorce. I've read DB and I've just ordered DR. Although DB is good, I'm hoping that DR is even better I need to find some answers and fast as he plan to go to the solicitors next month. I did start a new thread asking for advice but so far no-one has replied! I've been doing 180 for about 2 weeks and he has noticed. Time will tell, I'm not very patient at the best of times, lol.